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This question is geared more to the adult (above 18) demographic of this website.
UNfortunately some of you recently have lost a pet, and a am sorry for your loss.
I have a few questions for you though?
This is asked to people that have lost a pet ( specically dog or cat)
1. Did the animal pass at home or vet?
2. What did you do with the remains?
3. If cremated was it communial or private?
4. If private and you had them returned, what did you do with them?
5. During the process do you wish you had other options available? ( if so what were they)
6. Any thoughts or ideas that could of made this process easier to get over the grief?
Thanks for your answers, By the way I am serious in my questions and would appreciate this thread staying on topic.
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Both my dog and cat passed at home. Two years apart. I buried them in my yard and marked each spot with a stone from my yard. I was glad to have had them go that way. If you pay a vet to put them down, they will not usually release the remains unless you pay for cremation. Its against many local laws to bury a pet even on your own land. Burial on my property helped me with closure. I did it when my wife took the kids out and showed them the spot when they returned. We talked about it and how much we loved our pets and all. My oldest son is 4 but he understands and knows where they are is its over now.
We will likely get another dog in the next couple months. I have never lived without a cat and dog in my life. Its wierd and too quiet around at night. They would always be playing and fighting and such. Maybe I'll bring one home tomorrow now that I think of it LOL!
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we have lost pets before. I have never had one die at home thank god. We have always put them down when it is time. My family always takes the pets to a special spot or a pet cemetary. My in-laws have theirs cremated and keep the ashes at home. (2 of them do that I know of) I would not know what to do to come home and see my dog/cat had passed. every time I have been around, you know it's time and for some reason they do to. I remember looking into our old dogs eyes and he knew it was time to go. A old chesapeke bay retriver, not friendly just a dog that knew how to hunt. didn't care to be petted or anything he was content just being fed. on that day he couldn't love us enough. so as to being able to have the process easier...no there isn't really a easy way to put down a loved pet but sincere help and service really makes you think they understand what your going thru.
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I know I'm not in the "Over 18" group, but our dog passed late last year so I figured I'd post.
1. Did the animal pass at home or vet? Vet
2. What did you do with the remains? They took care of it
3. If cremated was it communial or private? (wasn't)
4. If private and you had them returned, what did you do with them? (didn't)
5. During the process do you wish you had other options available? ( if so what were they)
6. Any thoughts or ideas that could of made this process easier to get over the grief? Pictures and things that will make you remember your companion. I know whenever I run across a picture on my computer of our dog, I remember her and it helps...So if you have any pictures, put them in a nice frame and put them somewhere visable so you will never forget.
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You want in to a pet cemetary? Knock yourself out.
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We lost a dog, really old shoulda had her put down sooner. Buried her in the yard. Dog was about as old as me at the time like 16. Still sad about it but we got a new dog the year before the other died and they look really similar and have the same name so that helps
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Thanks for the answers, and please keep them comming.
It seems that so many of us our pets become a major part of your family, kinda like a brother if we had it as we where young and you grew up together, and if you where older they are like our children. So in a sense they truely are a part of the family, so there will be grief and sorrow.
For those that lost their animal at home, was it an immediate thought to bury in the yard, or did you feel like it was an only option, and you didnt know who to contact and didnt want to be bothered with a vet, either because of traveling with the deceased animal or cost.
POnch thanks for your repsonses, but your responses are why I asked for adult answers, because you where not in the decision making, although you had grief and I am sorry for your pet loss, but I ma looking more for answers of the person that handeled the situation. Because your answer of the vet took care of it, what do you think they did with it? Your folks had 2 options usually either waste ( goes in to landfill) or cremation, or a communial cremation which means it was cremated with up to 1000 lbs of other animals.
Anyways please keep the answers comming...
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our yard was the only option because of the fact that if u have it cremated u dont get ur pet
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Czech-it-Out Graphics Wrote:our yard was the only option because of the fact that if u have it cremated u dont get ur pet
You do get your pet back if its a private creamtion, not a communial. It costs more but you do get it back....
Thanks MIke for your honest answers...
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Had a cat that had to be put down by a vet. Wife wanted the remaines so I paid for the cremation. She keeps the remaines in a box with pictures on it probably in the attic or put away somewhere. There wasnt a funeral, we picked up the remaines from the vet the next day I believe. I dont think there is anything to help with the grief except time. Lighter on the pocketbook would help a little.
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Kevin do you remember approx what it cost?
Also do you think your wife would of liked a urn type container that could be personalized with a name, year and a pic? I am not trying to sell anything LOL, just asking if you think this would of helped her and then they remains would not of been stored int he attic.
To me it sounds like a lot of you think of your animals and treat your animals as family members, so in some respect do they deserve a respectful disposition ( cremation or burial) as a part of the family being thrown into a landfill or creamated with a 1000 lbs of other animals and roadkill.
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I cant remember but Ill ask when I see her. I'm sure she would of wanted an urn for the kitty as shes into keepsakes and containers. I thought the whole thing was kinda weird bringing the remains home but she always told me that if the cat ever died she would have it stuffed and mounted. So I happily went with the cremation.
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Thanks Kev you dont have to ask her its not that important, thought you might of known off the top of your head....
Thanks again
Also please continue to share stories and answers to the first post questions.
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I thinking 4-6 hundred
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cemeb4dk Wrote:This question is geared more to the adult (above 18) demographic of this website.
UNfortunately some of you recently have lost a pet, and a am sorry for your loss.
I have a few questions for you though?
This is asked to people that have lost a pet ( specically dog or cat)
1. Did the animal pass at home or vet?
2. What did you do with the remains?
3. If cremated was it communial or private?
4. If private and you had them returned, what did you do with them?
5. During the process do you wish you had other options available? ( if so what were they)
6. Any thoughts or ideas that could of made this process easier to get over the grief?
Thanks for your answers, By the way I am serious in my questions and would appreciate this thread staying on topic. my dog PANDA passed away just over a year ago.
1)we took it to the vet caue we knew something wasnt right. Thats when we got the bad news that she was sick and cold live but would need insulin shots everyday. she was 15yrs old dog
2)Had her cremated
3)Private, i loved my dog and wanted to make sure she got the respect she desevered.
4)My mom has them at her place. They are on a shelf with a pic and a mold with her paw print in it that the vet gave us.
5)the only options you look for at that time is the miracle that will make them better, or at least hope that they know how much you really loved them and the happiness that they brought to your life.i wanted so bad to do what i could to keep her around even if that would have ment changing my sched just to make sure she got her shots.but i knew she was old and i dont want to see her suffer.I think the hardest part was wondering what she was thinking as she passed away. I just didnt want her to think she did something wrong.they asked if i wanted to be there and hold her when they gave her the shot but i couldnt. i didnt want the thought of seeing her die in my mind as my last time with her.
5) the only thing that can make things better is time.And even reading/writting this im getting emotional. I took her to the channahon animal hospital and i felt they did all they could to make things as easy for us as possible.I think to have the private cremation done it cost about $175 if i remember correctly. And we got her back in a urn(sp) and a plaster mold with her name and paw print in it. A few weeks later we got a card in the mail from them.
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Thanks Hoob, I am sorry for your loss, but thats the answers I am looking for...
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Well, I'm not over 18 either, but I was involved.
Our dog died at the vet (cancer  )
We had her cremated and she is on the top of our china hutch.
It was private.
We wanted her cremated.
Only thing that could make it easier is to have another one around to have fun with and make you laugh.
Hope I helped.
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1. Our 1st cat passed at the vet after surgery for a bad tooth! And our 2nd cat, who looked like a twin to our 1st, had a bad heart and passed in my arms as his heart gave up without warning right in front of my wife too.
2. Both are buried in our back yard with cross' bearing their names cause our kids wanted to know where they would be laid to rest and for closure.
3.No cremation
4.No
5. Yes, a miracle to bring them both back.
6. Pictures of them both and knowing where the rip, both help my kids, wife and myself deal with their passing and give us closure.
Hope this helps you through these times, it's one of lifes lesson's that's hard to get over, only with time and the good memories you can.
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mikeh Wrote:Both my dog and cat passed at home. Two years apart. I buried them in my yard and marked each spot with a stone from my yard. I was glad to have had them go that way. If you pay a vet to put them down, they will not usually release the remains unless you pay for cremation. Its against many local laws to bury a pet even on your own land. Burial on my property helped me with closure. I did it when my wife took the kids out and showed them the spot when they returned. We talked about it and how much we loved our pets and all. My oldest son is 4 but he understands and knows where they are is its over now.
We will likely get another dog in the next couple months. I have never lived without a cat and dog in my life. Its wierd and too quiet around at night. They would always be playing and fighting and such. Maybe I'll bring one home tomorrow now that I think of it LOL!
I think it all depends on the vet Mike. Our family vet (had for bout 18 years) let us take both animals home with us after they put them down. He always asked us if we wanted him to take care of it but we told him we would. Also I'm sure there are a few more vets out there that understand you and would let you take the animal home. Maybe make you sign a paper or something but....
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1. Did the animal pass at home or vet? at home in my arms 
2. What did you do with the remains? I buried her in the tree row where I squirrel hunted as a kid
3. If cremated was it communial or private? N/A
4. If private and you had them returned, what did you do with them? N/A
5. During the process do you wish you had other options available? ( if so what were they) no, I'm good
6. Any thoughts or ideas that could of made this process easier to get over the grief? the biggest thing that helped me was my other dog, this one is big, I know of no way to make it easy..
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Boy this is a tough one for me especially latley.
Going through a divorce and haveing a lot of difficulty finding a home I was faced with the decision to put down my dog, I was lucky I did not have to and found her a new home. At best she has another chance to live out the remaining years. The new owners just lost theirs over the dog food recall.
From what I looked into it would cost around 110-175 to put the animal down based on 100lbs. For the creamation remains to be returned it was approx another $75 and more if the pet was done individually.
According to what I looked into most do not want the remains returned.
Yes my dog is a part of the family and was treated so for 9 years. This chokes me up now thinking about it on giving her away. My neighbors on both sides were upset over it as well but she is in a good home with kids.
You spend much time with them and get to know them like they are one of your children. Sometimes they even act like one of the kids. They greet you when you come home just like a toddler does. My pet knew when something was wrong with one of us ill or depressed and made attempts to make you feel better or stay by you until you fell asleep. I even would give my dog fillet migon one in a blue moon, eggs in her food and some table scraps depending on what it was.
She was the best dog I had ever owned and doubt I will find another like her.
Hope this helps
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way to go Biodragen, your last paragraph choked me up man
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Sorry bout that, was not my intent.
This is a very hard subject for me and it only has been a week
since I gave her away.
Mine was addicted to the biscuts from farm and fleet---she goes nuts over them.
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I know i don't qualify but when MY dog passed away a few years back and I decided on what to do. My dog (Dexter) passed 3-4 years back at home, my grandma was there but we were at a car show. We took him to a local pet cremation building and arranged a private cremation that day. I had the ashes returned, because they showed extreme sentimential value to me and the rest of my family. We were offered the group cremation, but the price of a private one was no issue in my eyes. As for problems, none at all.
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